Do we have any resources for marriage and sex?

Treating the other person as a person and not as a body is essential for love. Jesus explained to a 15-year-old boy, Emmanuel Segatashya (Rwanda) in 1982, the reason polygamy causes deep suffering among wives: multiple spouses are compelled to share the same husband, which undermines personal dignity and emotional exclusivity. 

Book: The Boy Who Met Jesus: Segatashya Emmanuel of Kibeho by Ilibagiza, Immaculee 

Sexual activity detached from commitment or openness to life is understood, within Christian moral theology, to impede the work of the Holy Spirit within a relationship. Any use of sex without the intention of procreation is sinful lust. Even if we are heterosexually married, any sexual act that brings pleasure and release without the intention of procreation is sinful lust. This puts us all on the same playing field before God. Continence in married life is advised in Emmerich's visions. That's why, personally, I can't criticise any group. The Church proposes Natural Family Planning as the morally acceptable means of regulating births, as it respects both human dignity and openness to life.

[Jesus speaks] So in spiritual life he who perfectly desires to be Mary must first be Martha, labouring physically to my praise. And he ought first to learn how to withstand the desires of the flesh and the temptation of the fiend and afterwards he may with deliberation ascend up the height of Mary. For he who is unproved and tempted, and he who has not overcome the lusts of his flesh, how may he continually heed and choose heavenly things? [Saint Bridget, 1360]

Some individuals express a sense of powerlessness over addictions related to sexuality, pornography, or the pursuit of pleasure. For those who sincerely desire self-mastery, the following spiritual disciplines are proposed as a path toward healing and interior freedom: commit to praying the Rosary daily, and conclude by asking the Blessed Virgin Mary for the grace of temperance and control over disordered desires. Practice fasting on bread and water from Friday at 1:00 a.m. to Saturday at 1:00 a.m.; for those seeking deeper discipline, an additional fast on Wednesdays may be undertaken. At 3:00 p.m. each day, observe the Hour of Mercy by offering a prayer in remembrance of Christ’s suffering on the Cross, asking for strength to curb your urges and purification of heart. Go to confession and be specific with the priest about where you failed. Go to Mass and take the Eucharist with a repentant heart for sins committed. If married, let the wife initiate and do not deny, but you must struggle for control and never initiate anything. Try to stay away from anything that will trigger your urges as much as possible. Do the above non-stop for a year, and continue if you want more control. You'll see your urges dissolve in time; it's subtle and effective, and the most beautiful thing is that you'll be at peace. Be grateful for God's help; keep doing this even if you are in control; praise God for his assistance. Alternatively, one may also pursue structured recovery through established twelve-step programs for addiction, as outlined in the recommended literature below.

Book: Walk a New Path: Forgiveness, Grieving, and the Twelve Steps by Sylvain Lavoie OMI;

Book: Love and Responsibility by John Paul, Pope, II

Book: Theology of the Body for Beginners: A Basic Introduction to Pope John Paul II's Sexual Revolution by West, Christopher

Book: First Comes Love: Finding Your Family in the Church and the Trinity by Hahn, Scott

The heightened emotional intensity often experienced during the first one to two years of a romantic relationship—commonly referred to as the “love high”—must be followed by intentional engagement with a spouse’s primary love language if a marriage is to endure. These love languages may include words of affirmation, gift-giving, physical touch, acts of service, or quality time. When a partner’s primary mode of receiving love is neglected, emotional distance can gradually develop. This dynamic is clearly articulated by Gary Chapman in his well-known work on the subject.

Book: 5 Love Languages Hardcover Special Edition by Gary Chapman

Prophetic revelations made to Venerable Mother Mariana de Jesus(1618-1645) by Our Lady Mary:

In the 20th Century... as for the Sacrament of Matrimony, which symbolizes the union of Christ with His Church, it will be attacked and profaned in the fullest sense of the word. Masonry, which will then be in power, will enact iniquitous laws with the objective of doing away with this Sacrament, making it easy for everyone to live in sin, encouraging the procreation of illegitimate children born without the blessing of the Church.

Let's define Masonic, its agenda is:

Marriage as a merely civil contract open to divorce at will, abortion, exclusion of religious education from public schools, exclusion of Church from the provision of social welfare and or control of charities.

It seems we are already there. Saint Thomas Aquinas said in 1250 about divorce,

The Old Law is described as "restraining the hand, not the will"... the New Law, which is the Law of love, is said to restrain the will... precepts of Our Lord are not contrary to the precepts of the Old Law. For what Our Lord commanded about a man not putting away his wife, is not contrary to what the Law prescribed. "For the Law did not say: 'Let him that wills, put his wife away': the contrary of which would be not to put her away. On the contrary, the Law was unwilling that a man should put away his wife, since it prescribed a delay, so that excessive eagerness for divorce might cease through being weakened during the writing of the bill. Hence Our Lord, in order to impress the fact that a wife ought not easily to be put away, allowed no exception save in the case of fornication."(Summa Theologica, Aquinas)

and,

Jerome: It is fornication alone which destroys the relationship of the wife; for when she has divided one flesh into two, and has separated herself by fornication from her husband, she is not to be retained, lest she should bring her husband also under the curse, which Scripture has spoken, "He that keepeth an adulteress is a fool and wicked." [Prov 18:23] For as he is cruel and unjust that puts away a chaste wife, so is he a fool and unjust that retains an unchaste; for in that he hides the guilt of his wife, he is an encourager of foulness...But if she do marry another, she is in the guilt of adultery; wherefore it follows, "And whoso marrieth her that is put away, committeth adultery."[Matt 5:32], giving her an opportunity of a second marriage...He says this to the terror of him that would take her to wife, for the adulteress would have no fear of disgrace.(Catena Aurea, Aquinas)

The Church’s annulment process is an expression of pastoral mercy, offering clarity and healing where a valid sacramental marriage may never have existed; this website provides relevant questions and answers on the subject. "[Jesus speaks] Those marriages that the supreme pontiffs permitted were ratified and to be upheld." (S. Bridget,1360).

Contemporary genetic research has identified certain genes associated with conditions such as Alzheimer’s disease, yet no gene has been shown to predict an individual’s sexual behavior. This suggests that sexual behavior is not biologically predetermined but is shaped predominantly by psychological and environmental factors. Psychological research further indicates that childhood upbringing plays a significant role in adult behavior; for example, narcissistic parenting can contribute to traits such as co-dependence and chronic distrust later in life(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lY0Im1ePQu0). When Pope Francis articulated similar observations regarding the complexity of human development and behavior, his remarks were widely misinterpreted and met with significant media criticism. It is also noteworthy that Catholic exorcists commonly advise psychological evaluation and treatment for obsessions and addictions, recommending formal spiritual intervention only when such means prove insufficient. This approach reflects the Church’s recognition of the proper distinction and cooperation between psychological care and spiritual discernment.

A kid's relationship with his parents is dependent on their spiritual health,

They who look to wealth and not temper, to beauty and not faith, and require in a wife such endowments as are required in harlots, will not beget sons obedient to their parents or to God, but rebellious to both; that their children may be punishment of their ungodly wedlock.

Book: Catena Aurea by Saint Thomas Aquinas

How the human body reveals God is explained by John Paul II; for example,

In the language of the body, the conjugal act signifies not only love, but also potential fecundity. Therefore it cannot be deprived of its full and adequate significance by artificial means. In the conjugal act it is not licit to separate the unitive aspect from the procreative aspect, because both the one and the other pertain to the intimate truth of the conjugal act...It can be said that in the case of an artificial separation of these two aspects, a real bodily union is carried out in the conjugal act, but it does not correspond to the interior truth and to the dignity of personal communion: communion of persons. This communion demands that the language of the body be expressed reciprocally in the integral truth of its meaning. If this truth be lacking, one cannot speak either of the truth of self-mastery, or of the truth of the reciprocal gift and of the reciprocal acceptance of self on the part of the person. Such a violation of the interior order of conjugal union, which is rooted in the very order of the person, constitutes the essential evil of the contraceptive act.

Book: Theology of the Body: Human Love in the Divine Plan by John Paul II

Accordingly, it is appropriate to examine the issues of divorce, contraception, masturbation, abortion, and euthanasia within the context of married life. These represent five of the most serious and commonly encountered moral failures that can undermine the integrity of marriage and family life:

Thinking about divorce? Contemplating divorce for the purpose of leaving a marriage and beginning a new relationship is often rooted in self-centered reasoning that prioritizes personal desire over marital responsibility. An extramarital relationship, by its nature, disregards the dignity and personhood of the other spouse. Following divorce, the abandoned spouse frequently experiences profound psychological and emotional trauma, often described as a sense of deep loss akin to physical injury, accompanied by prolonged anxiety that may persist for months or even years. Marriage, properly understood, entails a shared commitment to perseverance through personal shortcomings, difficult circumstances, and mutual growth, including concern for one another’s spiritual well-being. Viewed in this light, divorce undertaken to pursue another relationship stands in direct contradiction to the foundational purpose of marriage, which is rooted in fidelity, sacrifice, and the pursuit of the good of the other.

Thinking about contraception? Considering contraception within marriage raises fundamental questions about the meaning and purpose of sexual intimacy. When sexual pleasure is deliberately separated from commitment and responsibility, contraception can reduce marital intimacy to a purely self-gratifying act, thereby trivializing its deeper significance. In this view, sexual intimacy risks becoming consumptive rather than unitive, focused on pleasure while intentionally excluding its life-giving dimension. The sex act feels physically different because contraception robs the person of the intention of sex. Sex becomes a form of gluttony. It's like eating cheesecake for both pleasure and nourishment, then vomiting it up to avoid the nourishment part. By contrast, sexual relations that remain open to life reinforce mutual commitment, shared responsibility, and concern for the well-being of one’s spouse and family.

Thinking about masturbation? Nothing gets a relationship off track faster than masturbation. It's like flying over a cliff by yourself; what seems like a pleasurable and relaxing view is actually a distortion of reality, just fiction. Reality can't measure up to the human imagination gone awry. We are slowly distancing away from our imperfect spouse, always searching outside of marriage for somebody more in tune with our fiction.  

Thinking about aborting a baby or euthanasia of a spouse? Considering abortion or the euthanasia of a spouse raises profound moral and ethical questions concerning the sanctity of human life. In this context, Sondra Abrahams reported that in 1970, after being pronounced legally dead, she was shown visions of Heaven, Purgatory, and Hell. She later recounted the following testimony:

Jesus showed me abortions. I saw billions of bloody torn bodies. Jesus started to cry. He said "You see, this is what mankind thinks of my Father's gift of life. They destroy it." After that He showed me euthanasia and said many would die in hospitals and nursing homes.

Miracle photo, Denver. What abortion does to Jesus.

Are there sexual restrictions in marriage? Yes, let's explain,